Anonymous asked: This may not be the best place for this question, but I don't have anyone irl I can ask so here goes: I don't masturbate. Never have. It's just not something I realized was even an option as a teen, and now I don't really know where to start. I do think it's more difficult for me to achieve orgasms because I don't really know what I like, so I can't instruct him. The world of Dildos is very intimidating, and I just wondered if you have any advice on where a 21yo first timer should start?
Sure, I have some personal advice. I’m sure you can find plenty more in-depth stuff online, like tips and techniques, but here are some pointers:
Get to know yourself! Honestly, the only way I found out what I like during masturbation/sex is through experimentation, lots of “practice” and even a few mistakes.
Take your time. Realize that you may not achieve orgasm every single time, and that’s okay: because the more you practice, the better you’ll get, just like with most other things.
Try a little bit of everything. See what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not. What turns you on? What feels good? Maybe you like penetration; maybe you only like outer stimulation — maybe you like both at the same time! Maybe you like really raunchy fantasies. Or the shower head on a massage function. Or wearing something special. Or going very slowly. It’s okay to see what works and ditch what doesn’t.
Lube Up! Whatever bits you have, a little lube goes a loooong way towards pleasure. Crotch giblets just feel better with a dab of something slippery on them to help the process, plus it helps your fingers/toys/whatever slip around, so you might find a spot you didn’t know you liked before!
Toys Maybe! While most of the time it isn’t necessary to use toys in masturbation, they can be fun and lead to different kinds of orgasms for some folks. But getting to know yourself can really determine what sort of toy you go after (or you might prefer to never buy one or try them all)! If you like outside stimulation, then a vibe bullet, vibrating wand, finger vibrator, etc. can be nice. If you’d rather something more penetrative, then there’s a wide variety of dildos and plugs to choose from! Just see what works with your body and choose accordingly.
Most of all, just have fun! Stay relaxed, laugh at yourself from time to time and just be happy with all the fun ways your body can feel pleasure, whatever it is that it turns out you’re into!
This is solid advice. Practice really does make perfect. Just be comfortable with yourself and before you know it, you’ll be having fun like the rest of us!
wow, someone just gave a sex ed class with adventure time gifs
if anything in the world could completely destroy any sort of sexy feelings forever, it’s seeing lemongrab. good choice. >:(
I don’t know; I think Lemongrab is one of the sexier characters in Adventure Time.
Dark Souls is fun
After four deaths (Two of which were me simple putting down the controller to hug my girlfriend,) I finally soloed Ornstein and Smough. (Of course, Ornstein had to be killed last.)
Now to dress like a golden jerk-butt.